5 Simple Ways to Take Care of Yourself While Caring for a Loved One!

If you're caring for someone living with Alzheimer's or dementia, I want you to hear this: you matter too.

I know that can be hard to believe some days. When you're deep in the day-to-day of managing medications, calming fears, answering the same questions over and over again—your own needs often get pushed to the bottom of the list. But here’s the truth: taking care of yourself isn’t selfish. It’s necessary. You can’t pour from an empty cup.

Here are five simple ways to refill your own cup, even in the middle of caregiving.

1. Give yourself permission to rest.

Not just when everything is done (because let’s be honest, it never is). Real rest. A nap. Sitting down with a cup of coffee while it’s still warm. Taking five minutes to breathe deeply. You don’t have to “earn” rest. You deserve it because you’re human.

2. Accept help—even if it’s hard.

So many caregivers feel like they have to do it all. But you don’t. Whether it’s a neighbor dropping off a meal, a friend offering to sit with your loved one for an hour, or calling a respite service, say yes when help is offered. It doesn't make you weak—it makes you wise.

3. Find your moments of peace.

You might not get a full afternoon off, but you can still find moments. Maybe it's stepping outside to feel the sun on your face. Maybe it's listening to your favorite song in the car. Whatever helps you reconnect with yourself, carve out time for it. Those little moments add up.

4. Talk to someone who gets it.

Caregiving can feel incredibly isolating. You need people in your life who understand what you're going through. Whether it’s a support group, a friend who's been there, or a therapist—talk it out. Your feelings are valid, and you don’t have to carry them alone.

5. Be kind to yourself.

Some days will be really hard. You’ll get tired. You’ll lose your patience. You might cry in the bathroom. That doesn't mean you're failing—it means you're human. Please, don’t be so hard on yourself. You’re doing something deeply meaningful and incredibly difficult.

If no one has told you lately: you're doing an amazing job. And you deserve care too—real care, not just “getting by.” One small step at a time, be as gentle with yourself as you are with your loved one.

You’re Not Alone—And You Don’t Have to Do This Alone

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, unsure, or just need someone to talk to who gets it, I’m here. At Empathetic Memory Coaching, I offer support, guidance, and real-life tools for caregivers just like you—whether you're looking for education, encouragement, or simply someone to remind you that you're doing better than you think.

Feel free to reach out anytime, or explore upcoming Alzheimer’s and dementia care seminars designed to help you feel more confident and supported in your caregiving journey.

You’re not just caring for someone else—you’re allowed to care for you, too.